A little about me

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My Wish

To compassionately guide and support others through End-of-Life as an extraordinary human event.  To help all involved achieve a beautiful sense of peace as personal as each life lived. 

My Path

Big changes in life, while sometimes difficult can also force you to stop, to have time to "just think"; to consider your life and how you want to live the rest of it.  In re-imagining this, I was drawn to do something that would help others experiencing change and loss as I had.  It felt intimately personal to me.  As I searched for this new purpose,  I found INELDA and immediately knew where I belonged. Chances are you are here as you are in midst of experiencing a precious loss. I  hope to help you along the way and also experience some light in it.

Our grief began with a phone call from our mother. We learned she had a completely unexpected, aggressive terminal illness. Myself and my three siblings were shocked, confused, devastated, broken and ill prepared.  It was emotional chaos. We all felt lost and struggled to openly acknowledge what was happening to  her.

In a moment of courage I sat on the edge of her bed. I stopped avoiding the obvious and asked her.  Did she understand that she was dying?  She did. Was she scared? She was. For US. 

However, in that moment she also had a tremendous look of relief in her eyes.  I realized I was meeting her where she was, in our new reality. We hugged tight, cried, laughed and talked with raw honesty.  We reassured each other we would be ok.  I only wish I had asked her sooner. I had no idea we only had a few days left together.

I will cherish that time of raw emotion and openness with her forever. As difficult as it was, it gave us both a deep sense of comfort and peace in letting go.  For that I am grateful. I wish the same for you.